We have likely known people, friends or even family, and seen them all tense and frazzled while they were going through their divorce. Maybe they even “fought it out” in court to finalize it, suffering emotional and financial stress in the process. Recovery could take years.
That does not have to be you! This agony can be avoided. There is a better way, another path where you and your spouse can maintain control over the process, save yourselves thousands of dollars, and start your new life with more peace in your heart.
As you begin your divorce, instead of envisioning being in front of the judge, envision in your mind the money you can save and the peace of mind you can have by reaching agreement with your spouse early on and avoid having to litigate, spending endless hours and thousands of dollars preparing to go to court. That is the difference mediation makes.
Mediation is avoiding litigation with minimal financial expenditure and the least amount of collateral damage possible, not only for you, but also for your child(ren), if any, who are involuntarily part of the divorce process.
Saving money and ending the divorce quickly matters even more when financial obligations between the parties will continue post-divorce, such as child support, spousal maintenance, or equalization payments. Planning ahead, making rational decisions, and minimizing legal costs can make it more feasible for these obligations to be met. Money spent on attorneys is money that won’t be available for gas, groceries, or future support payments.
Additionally, if children are involved, the biggest gift you can give them under the circumstances is to finalize your divorce without forcing them to go through many months, or years, of ill feelings, arguments, haggling, negative speaking of the other, spending their college fund, or being forced to forego multiple family activities or vacations because there’s “no money.”
While you may be almost certain that you cannot reach any agreement with your spouse under these circumstances, an experienced mediator can make the difference by maintaining a respectful “climate” throughout, presenting different options in crucial moments and explaining how a decision on the same issues you are arguing about now will be decided by a stranger if you allow it. The fact that your spouse cannot communicate directly with you is minimized.
“Please do not think that by “forgiving” the other, you place yourself in a weaker position. We are actually strengthening ourselves against any “darts” that the adversary attempts to throw at us. Forgiving is always an act showing and attaining strength, never weakness.”
Mr. Larson is acutely aware that the high cost of litigating a divorce in court will likely lead to one of at least three possible results.
One, the parties cannot afford any legal representation, they can’t stand talking to each other, so they both represent themselves and attempt to “fight it out” in front of the judge. One party is usually more satisfied than the other with the outcome, or neither is very satisfied at all. During the months leading up to the court hearing, the parties will have sufficient time to argue, exchange heated text messages or emails (usually related to discovery requests, visitation exchanges, parenting or financial disputes) and become sufficiently angry with each other. By the time trial comes around, their level of animosity against each other is at its peak.
This is harmful enough just for the parties to start their single lives anew. However, if the parties have children, the backlash to them can be disastrous.
The second scenario is similar to the first except that one party is able to hire an attorney, usually with family assistance. Many thousands are spent on one attorney, with similar results as above. The parents might despise each other by the time the divorce is final. The children, if any, will suffer regardless.
Mr. Larson knows that in the majority of divorces, mediation can bring about the most equitable results with a minimum of cost and emotional distress. He wants to give as many couples as possible that opportunity.
To help divorcing couples do this, he brings his nearly 30 years of experience in divorce matters to the table, and has tried to spread this beneficial information by writing, arguably, one of the most practical and useful books on Amazon to teach couples how to maintain control over their divorce by successfully utilizing mediation, potentially saving them many thousands of dollars and minimizing their mental anguish in the process.
“Love Is Grand but Divorce is 20 Grand” is available on Amazon Kindle at https://a.co/d/2zuB7SC. The ROI is incredible. It is a “must read” for anyone involved, or about to be involved, in a divorce.
Mr. Larson offers divorce mediation services at a more affordable rate, not because of a lack of expertise, but due to a simplification of the process using a platform we are very familiar with. All mediation conferences are conducted online via Zoom. Free initial consultations are available telephonically (only for questions regarding the mediation process, not legal advice).
Other contacts, including providing the necessary information to the mediator, and a review of all documents, will be completed via email. Any additional administrative assistance is managed on a contract basis. Using this method, Mr. Larson has eliminated the overhead costs associated with maintaining a physical office and employing administrative staff. This efficiency allows him to pass significant savings on to you, while still providing the same high-quality, professional service.
Online mediation is not only cost-effective but also offers unparalleled convenience for the parties involved. It allows all to participate in sessions from any quiet location, including from your own home or your attorney’s office, eliminating the cost of travel for everyone.
In many cases where there has been more conflict, there is the additional benefit of not needing to be in the physical presence of your soon-to-be ex-spouse.
This more contemporary approach adds simplicity to the process while continuing to ensure that both you and your spouse receive the same skilled assistance that is needed for the two of you to reach an accord agreeable to both parties, thereby eliminating the need for continued expensive litigation culminating in a judge making those decisions (i.e. court orders) for you.
If not represented:
*filing fees and costs not included
Would you like to schedule a telephonic conference call to ask any additional questions regarding how online mediation can simplify your divorce process?
